Today, points are shared on how Christian children are to respond to use of foul language by their own parents.  Many Christian believers feel pressured to disregard and tolerate verbal behavior of family members, loved ones, and other close associates who continually curse and swear.  Some use profanity with the idea that it is plain, colorful, and easy to understand.  Many began their habits of foul speech, profanity, and vulgar language because they wanted the appearance of being adult, self-confident, and unafraid.  Later they indulge swearing as “being myself,” or staying authentic, comfortable, genuine, honest, and “keeping it real.”  There are those who present foul-mouthed behavior as a form of addiction just like alcoholism, drug use, gambling, smoking, and lying.  It is no longer a matter of choice, or conscious and voluntary behavior they can terminate simply by applying their own will.  Such persons often condemn public displays of courtesy, gentleness, restraint and self-control as being false, fanatical, insincere, motivated by fear, opposing personal freedom, “putting on airs,” soft, stiff, twisted, unnatural, unnecessary, and weak.  Only the peculiar operations of GOD that come by the Holy Spirit can establish the permanent transformation of the addict as a new creature in Christ.  The many difficult challenges that come against the children of believers include that—without being adults—children also must demonstrate faith in GOD through their acceptance of authority and duty as well as by having to wait quietly, and to endure persecution, and suffering.  For this reason, the young also must be instructed to understand that none are exempt from the burdens and trials that are the normal course of life.  Children further learn to maintain their integrity and independence as mature persons by being in extended relationships, and meeting various trials, where they must manage expressions of anger, bitterness, complaints, disappointment, fear, pain, and sorrow.  For even where they are gifted from GOD, minor and adult children rarely are capable of responding to all the complex emotional, psychological and spiritual needs of their parents as though they are on the same level as equals and peers.  More important than speaking well, using good grammar, or even speaking in tongues, believers should always speak truth, and operate fulfilling sacred purpose as representatives and spokespersons for divinity.  However, the skill to do this consistently and continuously is acquired only by practice and gradual growth.  As believers gain in sacred knowledge, become free of fornication and pride, are deepened in conviction, and adopt the new life style as one who is saved, others should see changes in what they have to say, and how they go about saying it.  A writer at “Yahoo! Answers” using the ID “Anonymous” (Level 1 with 118 points, a member since December 12, 2014) posted the following:

 

Should Christians cuss?

my mom is a Christian and she cusses up a storm. I tell her all the time that it’s a sin and quote bible verses that say not to cuss but she ends up finding a way to publically humiliate me and makes fun of my anxiety or tells me that I need to die. she talks about people like a dog but then goes to church and praises god. It really ticks me off because everyone thinks she’s all righteous and don’t even know that she cusses. at church she’s a Christian but at the house she’s not and she still ends up saying that i’m the one that’s going to hell and a hypocrite? I aint even Christian or at least I think i’m not but anyways should a Christian cuss?

 

THE GOLDEN ARROW:  Wherefore putting away lying, speak every man truth with his neighbour:  for we are members one of another.  Be ye angry, and sin not:  let not the sun go down upon your wrath:  Neither give place to the devil.  Let him that stole steal no more:  but rather let him labour, working with his hands the thing which is good, that he may have to give to him that needeth.  Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.  And grieve not the holy Spirit of God, whereby ye are sealed unto the day of redemption.  Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice:  And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.  (Ephesians 4:  25-32, KJV)

 

THE DOUBLE DAGGER:  Freedom of Foul Speech? (09/10/2014); Dating and Worship? (09/11/2014); Family and Beliefs of Children? (08/29/2014); Stories Repeated in the Bible? (08/30/2014); When Children Embrace Church? (08/18/2014); Condemned by the Church? (08/19/2014); The Bible and Stupid People? (07/17/2013); Destroying Justice? (07/18/2013)

 

“Anonymous”, often the key to overcoming as a Christian believer turns on our applying discernment (i.e., using ones own sacred content as a standard to recognize, respond to, or resist any ungodly spirit within events, messages, other persons, etc.), as well as correctly identifying our own spiritual needs, and remaining fixed upon our sacred (not our worldly) priorities.  Believers have no duty to change anyone; and the change they themselves experience is by willing submission to GOD.

Those who are born-again also must change and “grow up” again.  Their faith and trust in Christ as ones own redeemer and savior must increase, and become full and stable (we say, mature, perfect) over time as they continue to meet life experiences upon the earth.  Believers will be challenged by many of the same limits and tasks common among those who disbelieve.  However, believers are endowed with spirit content from the makeup of Deity that make it possible for them to endure and overcome.  Included are balance, forbearance, forgiveness, humility, longsuffering, love, patience, reverence, wisdom, and wrath against sin.

In the same way Jesus was careful not to challenge his parents following the incident at the Temple (where he became separated from them when disputing with the priests and elders), children in the Lord must continue to obey and respect their parents.  All must develop restraint, self-discipline, the ability to “hold their tongue,” and withhold judgment of their parents.  What a child can not say to their parents, they should not say about their parents.  This is specially so with their friends, and those outside of the family circle.  Gossip and slander are tools of the devil that always result in unforeseen damage and destruction within the home.

There is far more to be said, correctly applied, and spiritually understood.  (For example, while children are to minister to their parents (we say, serve) they are accountable for neither the damnation, nor the salvation of their parents.  As the spirit of GOD is present within their sons and daughters, multiple sacred works may go forth invisibly and silently; including cleansing, correction, healing, and regeneration.)  Even so, I trust this fragment will be useful.  Be it unto you according to your faith.

THE BLACK PHOENIX
Washington, DC

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