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Today, thoughts are shared on Christian belief, sacred practice, and human sexuality.  Popular culture now seeks to legitimate and normalize as civil rights many behaviors and patterns of association long thought to be destructive of family and the home as life-giving institutions.  It remains, fruitful and productive relationships that can produce a holy seed acceptable to GOD are characterized by accountability, commitment, fidelity, mutuality, restraint, stability, and trust.  The “holiness” that may describe a marriage union appears only through the presence and working of the imparted, indwelling Spirit from GOD through Jesus Christ.  For those who come into the world as infants who have no standing as “offspring of GOD,” to become sons and daughters of the Most High and joint heirs with Jesus Christ, they must become born again and receive adoption through the Holy Spirit.  The fighter at “Yahoo! Answers (Malaysia)” using the ID “?” (Level 1 with 177 points, a member since May 06, 2014) posted the following:

 

Your thoughts on people who call themselves Christian yet still cohabitate with a lover?

Update: Shouldn’t someone who says they believe in God try to follow what the Bible says instead of purposefully sinning?

 

THE GOLDEN ARROW:  Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife.  But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh:  but I spare you.  But this I say, brethren, the time is short:  it remaineth, that both they that have wives be as though they had none;  And they that weep, as though they wept not; and they that rejoice, as though they rejoiced not; and they that buy, as though they possessed not;  And they that use this world, as not abusing it:  for the fashion of this world passeth away.  But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord:  But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife.  There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit:  but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.  And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction.  (1st Corinthians 7:  27-35, King James Version, KJV)

 

THE DOUBLE DAGGER:  In Her father’s House? (02/08/2017); Why Is Lust Condemned? (07/20/2016); Flesh Against the Spirit? (06/19/2016); Gender, Sex and Christian Beliefs? (05/18/2016); The Wife of Your Youth? (12/22/2015); Strong Families? (11/10/2015); Scandal and Sin Among Believers? (06/05/2015) 

 

“?”, we have to be careful attempting to judge others.  Becoming spiritually mature as one “born again” through Jesus Christ may take many years, and requires “growing up again” by acquiring sacred knowledge, continuing sacred practices (we say, sacraments), participating in fellowship with mature believers as well as performing unselfish service to GOD.  Similarly, humans on the earth must become sexually mature, however, more than age and physical development are involved.  All who are born as the offspring of Adam inherit a longing for meaningful companionship and sexual appetite that, like hunger or thirst, operates in terms of carnal reason, sensation (e.g., hearing, feeling hot and cold, seeing, touching), and laws that may regulate only an animal nature or mechanical processes.  Just as one should not drink or eat anything and everything they may see, sexual expression should not be with anybody and everybody, doing anything and everything.  Balance, discernment, discipline, good judgment, and restraint must be acquired to safely engage in healthy sexual activity.  Sexual joining occurs on multiple levels and is—all at the same time—emotional, mental, physical, psychological, and spiritual.  Intimate relationships intended to provide sexual satisfaction always are complex, and must include continuous communication, exchange, and interaction that present subtleties (barely visible differences; hidden shifts in meaning and value).  Genuine mutual trust must be in place instead of betrayal, deceit, and lies that characterize immaturity, infatuation, and “puppy love.”  Fornication is the defilement of ones inborn spirit content from parents, and the spiritual confusion that results by joining oneself to a person physically present and their previous sexual partners who are not physically present.  The primary relationship provided by divinity for freely expressing ones body, mind, and Spirit demonstrates exclusive devotion and fidelity toward GOD—holy matrimony.  Pre-, extra- and multiple-marital relationships (e.g., polyandry and polygamy) do not allow the most godly and lasting expressions of love.  Thus, the counsel from GOD to sinners who choose to follow Jesus Christ include the following:

(1.)  Galatians 5:  16-17, King James Version (KJV):  16 This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh.  17 For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh:  and these are contrary the one to the other:  so that ye cannot do the things that ye would.

(2.)  Romans 8:  5-9, KJV:  5 For they that are after the flesh do mind the things of the flesh; but they that are after the Spirit the things of the Spirit.  6 For to be carnally minded is death; but to be spiritually minded is life and peace.  7 Because the carnal mind is enmity against God:  for it is not subject to the law of God, neither indeed can be.  8 So then they that are in the flesh cannot please God.  9 But ye are not in the flesh, but in the Spirit, if so be that the Spirit of God dwell in you. Now if any man have not the Spirit of Christ, he is none of his.

(3.)  Malachi 2:  13-16, KJV:  13 And this have ye done again, covering the altar of the LORD with tears, with weeping, and with crying out, insomuch that he regardeth not the offering any more, or receiveth it with good will at your hand.  14 Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the LORD hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously:  yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant.  15 And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth.  16 For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away:  for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts:  therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.

There is far more to be said, correctly applied, and spiritually apprehended.  (For example, (4.)  1st Timothy 4:  1-3, KJV:  1 Now the Spirit speaketh expressly, that in the latter times some shall depart from the faith, giving heed to seducing spirits, and doctrines of devils;  2 Speaking lies in hypocrisy; having their conscience seared with a hot iron;  3 Forbidding to marry, and commanding to abstain from meats, which God hath created to be received with thanksgiving of them which believe and know the truth.)  Even so, I trust this fragment will be useful.  Be it unto you according to your faith.

THE BLACK PHOENIX
Washington, DC

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Today, reply is given to a teenager struggling with issues of Christian belief, parental approval, racism, and sexual relationships.  Being related by blood is called “kinship”, being related through love, respect and trust are called “family”.  Young people often are impractical, express exaggerated pride, and insist they can rely upon the certainty, protection and security provided by genuine feelings of love.  Even so, the combination of desire and imagination can produce an uncontrollable fantasy of love.  Weeds of deceit, fornication, and “playing the whore” can infest the places intended for the plantings of marriage.  Considered in the light from Scripture, both the law of ones father (and its alternative, the law of the husband) come into view along with the provisions for young women becoming released from their promises to GOD.  Our youth often fail to correctly acknowledge the fact that, while they are under the authority and protection of their parents, the law requires that what they account as their own private affairs must be approved, monitored, and supervised by their adult caretakers.  In innocence and ignorance, the offspring willingly make promises to surrender the life and property of their parents for payment of the debts and obligations of their children.  Thus, it is legitimate that parents oversee marriage, courtship, and dating because unseen legal obligations may be cemented that include liability through misunderstood and unintended verbal contracts and promises, incurring unexpected and unwanted debts as well as having to seek relief for a fair division or return of shared personal property.  The fighter at “Yahoo! Answers (New Zealand)” using the ID “Joe” (Level 1 with 95 points, a member since February 07, 2017) posted the following:

 

Kicked out and disowned for having a black/mixed boyfriend? Help..?

I’m 18, and as I grow older I have only been attracted to colored men. I have tried dating my own race (white) but its just hard and annoying. In the past, my ex was black and my mom kicked me out until I broke up with him and came back. She also took the car she gave me (i paid 300 dollars on it!) And gave it to my brother. I stayed at my current boyfriends house and got depressed and lost my job. I look back and shouls have kept the job but i was younger and upset by my mom. But today, I am talking to a boy i really really like, he’s mixed. My mom claims to be “strict Christian” and said mixing races is bad. Yet she sleels with men she isn’t married to and judges people, she thinks kicking me out is a lesson and only because i dont follow her rules i cant live in her house. Though i am good at school, working, and i clean. I don’t do anything bad but date other races. She verbally abuses me daily and reminds me everything i never do. I just want to have a normal relationship.. go to prom and my mom take pictures, i wish she would be happy for me. And also, my redneck dad said if i had a mixed baby he would disown me.. yet he loves my sister and her mixed baby.. its stressful and i dont know if i can move out yet.. i have to wait for my new job so i have no money. Help please..

 

THE GOLDEN ARROW:  If a woman also vow a vow unto the LORD, and bind herself by a bond, being in her father’s house in her youth;  And her father hear her vow, and her bond wherewith she hath bound her soul, and her father shall hold his peace at her; then all her vows shall stand, and every bond wherewith she hath bound her soul shall stand.  But if her father disallow her in the day that he heareth; not any of her vows, or of her bonds wherewith she hath bound her soul, shall stand:  and the LORD shall forgive her, because her father disallowed her.  And if she had at all an husband, when she vowed, or uttered ought out of her lips, wherewith she bound her soul;  And her husband heard it, and held his peace at her in the day that he heard it:  then her vows shall stand, and her bonds wherewith she bound her soul shall stand.  But if her husband disallowed her on the day that he heard it; then he shall make her vow which she vowed, and that which she uttered with her lips, wherewith she bound her soul, of none effect:  and the LORD shall forgive her.  But every vow of a widow, and of her that is divorced, wherewith they have bound their souls, shall stand against her.  And if she vowed in her husband’s house, or bound her soul by a bond with an oath;  And her husband heard it, and held his peace at her, and disallowed her not:  then all her vows shall stand, and every bond wherewith she bound her soul shall stand.  But if her husband hath utterly made them void on the day he heard them; then whatsoever proceeded out of her lips concerning her vows, or concerning the bond of her soul, shall not stand:  her husband hath made them void; and the LORD shall forgive her.  Every vow, and every binding oath to afflict the soul, her husband may establish it, or her husband may make it void.  (Numbers 30:  3-13, King James Version, KJV)

 

THE DOUBLE DAGGER:  Can Christians Be Racists? (07/25/2016); Flesh Against the Spirit? (06/19/2016); Discipline and The Cross (06/16/2016); On Controlling Lust (01/05/2016); Growing Up Again? (12/09/2015); Understanding Spiritual Growth? (03/13/2015); Not Yet Delivered From Racism? (12/21/2014); Racism Is Not From GOD (12/22/2014)

 

“Joe”, for there to be a “happy ending” at your father’s house there are many important points for you to consider.  You seem to be confusing issues of being respected as an adult, Christian belief, race, and sexual freedom.  Mature Christian believers regard themselves as “married” and bound to GOD through Jesus Christ.  Nowadays, as they are developing to be full persons, young females encounter many intense emotional and psychological challenges; and they are likely to be exploited, overwhelmed, and “kicked to the curb.”  Like anyone else, you want to be free and pursue your own feelings and thoughts, however, you are not yet an independent or mature adult.  (Maturity is marked by balance, completeness, consistency, and stability.)

All lasting relationships and adult notions of love—be they with family, friends, or romantic interests—require that one be accountable, committed, and also willing to show love through restraint, sacrifice (i.e., doing whatever is demanded; paying every cost, even, laying down ones life), and self-denial.  Where you are prepared to talk about what you want from others, you also must be prepared to say what you are willing to give in return.  Parents are not unreasonable to deny “sexual relationships” to their daughters while they are living at home.  It is not that they are ignorant of how powerful and demanding sexual appetite in young people can be.  Nor is it that they can read people’s minds, or foretell the future so much as it is a matter of recognizing familiar patterns.  Once you see ABCDEFG, it is reasonable to think XYZ is on the way, and not 8-9-10-11.

In the same way it sends a message about how you value your parents for you to say, I can not stop smoking for two or three years while I am in my father’s house, I can not stop drinking alcohol, or attending foot ball games until after I am married, to say, I can not stop dating tells them there is a serious problem that goes beyond their having authority, duty, and willingness to trust you as their offspring.  It sends a message regarding what you think of yourself.

There is far more to be said, correctly applied, and spiritually apprehended.  (For example, the benefits of going to school and taking on small jobs include gaining self-confidence and acquiring self-discipline.  Having “a future” with the big life-accomplishments of career, marriage, and family are not possible for those who do not first learn to patiently wait, and while waiting direct their energy into things that will make them stronger and more well prepared for the things they truly want that remain ahead.  Where you and your male companions insist you are adult enough to maintain sexual relationships, you should only do so on your own terms, and in your own shared place.)  Even so, I trust this fragment will be useful.  Be it unto you according to your faith.

THE BLACK PHOENIX
Washington, DC

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Today, points are shared on divine law, holy matrimony, and biblical divorce (putting away) as aspects of divine revelation.  Through his life and ministry upon the earth, Jesus taught that GOD is a spirit, who must be acknowledged “in spirit and in truth.”  Thus, in addition to attitudes and conduct showing obedience and respect from the general population, covenant and divine law require that priests, prophets, and all the people who would execute judgment also must display compassion, forbearance, forgiveness, humility, love, and genuine righteousness.  A fighter at “Yahoo! Answers” using the ID “Lever” (Level 1 with 133 points, a member since July 07, 2010) posted the following:

 

Why did Jesus disagree with the concept of divorce if the Old Testament and Jewish scriptures were okay with it?

We read:

“If a man marries a woman who becomes displeasing to him because he finds something indecent about her… he writes her a certificate of divorce, gives it to her and sends her from his house,
Deuteronomy 24:1”

What was Jesus trying to introduce or trying to say, when he said no to divorce?

 

THE GOLDEN ARROW:  And the scribes and Pharisees brought unto him a woman taken in adultery; and when they had set her in the midst,  They say unto him, Master, this woman was taken in adultery, in the very act.  Now Moses in the law commanded us, that such should be stoned:  but what sayest thou?  This they said, tempting him, that they might have to accuse him. But Jesus stooped down, and with his finger wrote on the ground, as though he heard them not.  So when they continued asking him, he lifted up himself, and said unto them, He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her.  And again he stooped down, and wrote on the ground.  And they which heard it, being convicted by their own conscience, went out one by one, beginning at the eldest, even unto the last:  and Jesus was left alone, and the woman standing in the midst.  When Jesus had lifted up himself, and saw none but the woman, he said unto her, Woman, where are those thine accusers? hath no man condemned thee?  She said, No man, Lord. And Jesus said unto her, Neither do I condemn thee: go, and sin no more.  (John 8:  3-11, King James Version, KJV)

 

THE DOUBLE DAGGER:  The Cross and The Pharisees? (04/21/2016); The Wife of Your Youth? (12/22/2015); The Death Penalty? (10/08/2015); Accountability and Challenge, Not Blame (09/03/2015); Divine Mercy and Revelation? (08/03/2015); Lawful Divorce (11/17/2012); The Faith of Ones Parents? (11/18/2012)

 

“Lever”, for mature Christian believers, marriage pertains to the intent of divine creation, the joining of spirit using flesh, and the production of spirit-filled seed (offspring).  Thus, biblical divorce pertains to the widespread abuse of marriage, and godly relief from the arrogance, indifference and mistreatment of spouses that appeared in the earth through sin.  Sacred law has been promoted as an aspect of revelation wherein the fullness of divinity is made approachable, knowable, and known to all created beings and living creatures.  The law (called “the expressed will of GOD”) is to operate within the living through their awareness and self-will.  The character, nature, and substance of law provide an “image” of the GODhead that includes enmity against sin, faith, holiness, life essence (i.e., breath, spirit, word), person, presence, eternal purpose, and righteousness.  The image of GOD that is to be seen within Creation conforms to divine law, and projects those deep aspects of Deity we speak of as the heart and mind of GOD.  For finite beings who must complete mortality to continue in relationship with an eternal Creator also requires other sacred devices that include covenant, dynasty, family, forgiveness, inheritance, nation, proclamation, promise, prophecy, rebirth (i.e., the imparting of spirit content from the makeup of GOD to indwell the living), repentance, resurrection from the dead, and the second death.  Correctly understood, the law is an appearance or incarnation of divinity as are “praise”, the holy writings, and Jesus Christ dying upon the cross.  Because the law identifies sin, yet, does not itself eliminate, remove or give power to resist sin, many speak of a “curse” from the law.  The spirit contained in the law has been uplifted by Christ in contrast to our erratic and unreliable practice of the law.  Consider again how some of this is stated in language from the Bible:

(1.)  Mark 10:  2-5, King James Version (KJV):  2 And the Pharisees came to him, and asked him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife? tempting him.  3 And he answered and said unto them, What did Moses command you?  4 And they said, Moses suffered to write a bill of divorcement, and to put her away.  5 And Jesus answered and said unto them, For the hardness of your heart he wrote you this precept.

(2.)  Malachi 2:  14-16, KJV:  14 Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the LORD hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously:  yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant.  15 And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth.  16 For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away:  for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts:  therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.  17 Ye have wearied the LORD with your words. Yet ye say, Wherein have we wearied him? When ye say, Every one that doeth evil is good in the sight of the LORD, and he delighteth in them; or, Where is the God of judgment?

(3.)  1st Corinthians 7:  12-17, KJV:  12 But to the rest speak I, not the Lord:  If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.  13 And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.  14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband:  else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.  15 But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases:  but God hath called us to peace.  16 For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?

There is far more to be said, carefully examined, and spiritually understood.  (For example, (4.)  1st Corinthians 7:  29-33, KJV:  29 But this I say, brethren, the time is short:  it remaineth, that both they that have wives be as though they had none;  30 And they that weep, as though they wept not; and they that rejoice, as though they rejoiced not; and they that buy, as though they possessed not;  31 And they that use this world, as not abusing it:  for the fashion of this world passeth away.  32 But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord:  33 But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife.)  Even so, I trust this fragment will be useful.  Be it unto you according to your faith.

THE BLACK PHOENIX
Washington, DC

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Focus, today, is upon GOD appearing as Jesus Christ to provide a new dispensation and sacred mechanisms for mankind’s access to divinity, commitment, and eternal life.  When speaking about Deity and spirit, familiar language devices must be used in order to make explanations and instruction continue within the awareness of believers as concrete and memorable.  Yet, the lasting consciousness that spirit exists, is active, and is present may only be imparted and maintained using spirit substance itself, not finite elements such as emotion, intellect, logic, and philosophy.  In the holy writings, marriage and the imagery of banquets and wedding feasts have been used to clarify, depict, and suggest divine operations and sacred events that pertain to the ministry of Jesus upon the earth and from the heavens.  Christ is to be received as the only provision from GOD embodying all the divine attributes essential for salvation (e.g., forbearance, forgiveness, longsuffering, resurrection, rebirth, sanctification).  The language of a divine wedding garment that appears in the New Testament may be traced to Genesis where Adam is clothed in a covering for the human body made from glory, light, or spirit.  While yet in the Garden of Eden, the parents of mankind lost their sacred covering also thought to be innocence and purity.  After disobeying divinity by eating the forbidden fruit, the first pair discovered they were “naked”, and hid themselves from the Creator.  The two would be covered again by GOD, however, it would require using divine operations that included such elements as atonement, blood, burning, death, faith, forgiveness, perfect obedience, selfless sacrifice, and suffering.  Consider again the following from Scripture, and the presentation below:

Isaiah 54:  4-5, King James Version (KJV):  4 Fear not; for thou shalt not be ashamed:  neither be thou confounded; for thou shalt not be put to shame:  for thou shalt forget the shame of thy youth, and shalt not remember the reproach of thy widowhood any more.  5 For thy Maker is thine husband; the LORD of hosts is his name; and thy Redeemer the Holy One of Israel; The God of the whole earth shall he be called.

Isaiah 62:  1-5, KJV:  1 For Zion’s sake will I not hold my peace, and for Jerusalem’s sake I will not rest, until the righteousness thereof go forth as brightness, and the salvation thereof as a lamp that burneth.  2 And the Gentiles shall see thy righteousness, and all kings thy glory:  and thou shalt be called by a new name, which the mouth of the LORD shall name.  3 Thou shalt also be a crown of glory in the hand of the LORD, and a royal diadem in the hand of thy God.  4 Thou shalt no more be termed Forsaken; neither shall thy land any more be termed Desolate:  but thou shalt be called Hephzibah, and thy land Beulah:  for the LORD delighteth in thee, and thy land shall be married.  5 For as a young man marrieth a virgin, so shall thy sons marry thee:  and as the bridegroom rejoiceth over the bride, so shall thy God rejoice over thee.

1st Corinthians 3:  11-15, KJV:  11 For other foundation can no man lay than that is laid, which is Jesus Christ.  12 Now if any man build upon this foundation gold, silver, precious stones, wood, hay, stubble;  13 Every man’s work shall be made manifest:  for the day shall declare it, because it shall be revealed by fire; and the fire shall try every man’s work of what sort it is.  14 If any man’s work abide which he hath built thereupon, he shall receive a reward.  15 If any man’s work shall be burned, he shall suffer loss:  but he himself shall be saved; yet so as by fire.

Revelation 21:  1-3, KJV:  1 And I saw a new heaven and a new earth:  for the first heaven and the first earth were passed away; and there was no more sea.  2 And I John saw the holy city, new Jerusalem, coming down from God out of heaven, prepared as a bride adorned for her husband.  3 And I heard a great voice out of heaven saying, Behold, the tabernacle of God is with men, and he will dwell with them, and they shall be his people, and God himself shall be with them, and be their God.

Revelation 22:  16-17, KJV:  16 I Jesus have sent mine angel to testify unto you these things in the churches. I am the root and the offspring of David, and the bright and morning star.  17 And the Spirit and the bride say, Come. And let him that heareth say, Come. And let him that is athirst come. And whosoever will, let him take the water of life freely.

A writer at “Yahoo Answers” using the ID “Fred XXOO I” (Level 7 with 51,405 points, a member since June 28, 2010) posted the following:

 

Matthew 22:2, The Kingdom of heaven is like a king who reppared a wedding banquet 4 his son. what did that say 2 you? thank u.?

 

THE GOLDEN ARROW:  Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.  For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church:  and he is the saviour of the body.  Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.  Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;  That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,  That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.  So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.  For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:  For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.  For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.  This is a great mystery:  but I speak concerning Christ and the church.  Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.  (Ephesians 5:  22-33, KJV)

 

THE DOUBLE DAGGER:  The Male, the Female, and GOD (02/09/2014); Destroying the Resurrected Body? (02/10/2014); Relating to GOD? (11/05/2013); Does Satan Know? (11/06/2013); The Church as a Bride? (05/15/2013); How Do I Repent? (05/16/2013); A Life Companion? (11/07/2012); On Asking Why (11/08/2012); Speaking of GOD (10/20/2010); Eat and Run? (10/21/2010)

 

“Fred XXOO I”, see with new eyes:  The holy angels and all those in covenants (i.e., lawful relationships established by GOD with Adam, Abraham, Moses, David, and others joined to divinity through inheritance) were welcomed to embrace divinity through a new relationship with GOD manifest upon the earth in flesh (we say, incarnate).  All were to acknowledge a new creation (the church) that would be a “spouse” to the Son of the Highest.  Many of those who were specially “invited”, granted place, and welcomed to share in the multiple sacred events establishing eternal life, refused to acknowledge Jesus as the legitimate fulfillment of divine promise, or even respond with respect to his matchless  revelation of divine grace and exclusive devotion.  In their place, mankind in general is being welcomed to have intimate personal relationship to Jesus Christ as a church that will be a life companion to the Son of GOD in the same way a married couple becomes permanently joined by the union of their spirit content.

Throughout his ministry (we could say, courtship and dating) upon the earth, Jesus Christ planted seeds of an eternal dispensation from GOD to preserve mankind and all Creation.  However, the Lord was challenged to speak using terms that would be correctly recognized and understood only by those already having a peculiar spirit content from the makeup of divinity (e.g., faith, godly sorrow, holiness, purity, wisdom, wrath against sin, zeal).  Parables were a popular teaching tool of the day—and along with comparisons, contrasts, metaphors and similes—were used as a “filter” to discover and ignite spirit substance in those who were genuinely “called”, “elect”, and prepared through prophecy and the discipline of obeying sacred law for encounter with GOD in the person of Christ.

Through divine operations of covenant, judgment, and promise, all mankind to the time of Christ’s birth (for millennia) had been given admonition, comfort, encouragement, and guidance to restore the communion, intimacy and trust that was lost at Eden.  In addition to a relationship of blessing with Deity, Adam (the single divine name for the male and female) lost special sacred abilities, qualities, opportunities, and possibilities.  Full restoration requires permanent changes to mankind that include the end of mortality and receptiveness to corruption as well as the removal of dependency upon frameworks of time and space for sacred knowledge.  By GOD appearing in flesh as Christ and Messiah, atonement for sin and new access to divinity were being established.  Divine spirit content is to be the basis of identity in mankind (we say, the image of GOD).  Through “water baptism” (death of ones inborn spirit, rebirth from divine DNA, so to speak) and “fire baptism” to acquire spiritual authority and power, mankind is given a fresh endowment of divine life essence (we say, breath, spirit, word).   

There is far more to be said, understood, and spiritually apprehended.  (For example, those who are “ripe” after developing and maturing upon the earth will be harvested by Jesus as his church at his Advent (Second Coming).  These will be accounted as the “fruit” of his planting, and will be offered and presented to the Father before the host of heaven.  Because many angels and other created beings lost their place in heaven through sin, there now are places there to be filled for special events to be properly witnessed to, and completed.  Included are concluding final judgment, finishing the New Jerusalem, distributing rewards for service to divinity, and allotting places to the saints within the Holy City.)  Even so, I trust this fragment will be useful.  Be it unto you according to your faith.

THE BLACK PHOENIX
Washington, DC


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A response to a teenager’s question on human sexuality is featured, today.  While the council shared is from a Christian to an Islamic believer, the substance provided pertains to life for all.  More often than not, the confusion in our lives is not coming from our Creator; yet, there is no “easy way out.”  Given their duty as life companions entrusted with each other’s secrets, parents ought not expose one another to the censure of their children; and so they may not always speak freely to their own children regarding the common challenges, errors, and shortcomings from their younger days.  Just as we are careful to select food and drink to nourish our bodies, we must be careful selecting ideas and relationships to nourish our feelings and thoughts.  Many Christian believers have paid dearly for life lessons, and to arrive at the same points of truth shared among Muslims by first attending “the school of hard knocks.”  Because they continued to be immature, were stubborn, and lacked correct knowledge, they repeated basic mistakes in their attitudes and their sexual behavior for many years before being recovered from error through the operations of GOD.  Where a mother uses drugs during pregnancy, her child may be born addicted.  Similarly, where either of the parents practice fornication, their child may be born spiritually defiled and unclean.  While we are young we must be encouraged to understand that—just as ability to recite passages from the holy writings come only through practice that may seem dull, monotonous, and tedious—self-discipline, self-mastery, and self-control also come only through deliberate and painstaking practice.  Consider the following Bible verses, and the discussion below: 

Proverbs 16:  32, King James Version (KJV):  32 He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city. 

Proverbs 25:  28, KJV:  28 He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls. 

Mark 10:  6-8, KJV:  6 But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female.  7 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife;  8 And they twain shall be one flesh:  so then they are no more twain, but one flesh.

Micah 6:  8, KJV:  8 He hath shewed thee, O man, what is good; and what doth the LORD require of thee, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God?

The young writer at “Yahoo! Answers” posted the following:

 

Ramadan: How do I control my lust?

salam, I am a 16 year old brother…I find myself unable to lower my gaze….I stare at women, girls, and even boys in public with lust, masturbate all the time, even fantasizing about boys, and rape….I sometimes watch porn, and I just want to know, how do I control my lust? salam, Mustafa

 

THE GOLDEN ARROW:  And this have ye done again, covering the altar of the LORD with tears, with weeping, and with crying out, insomuch that he regardeth not the offering any more, or receiveth it with good will at your hand.  Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the LORD hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously:  yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant.  And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth.  (Malachi 2:  13-15, KJV)

 

THE DOUBLE DAGGER:  The Wife of Your Youth? (12/22/2015); All Sin Is Willful? (10/20/2015); The Mistakes In Youth? (08/24/2015); Sermons About Good Sex? (08/25/2014); About Good Sermons? (08/26/2014); Pornography from the Bible (11/26/2012); More Than Salvation (11/27/2012)

 

“Mustafa”, as salam alekum.  When it comes to sex, no one has all the final answers; and we all must depend on some specific guiding principles.  The council a Christian father must give his son regarding a boy developing into manhood includes a number of serious warnings that help to bring balance into his thinking on, and acting out sexual desires.  As carnal beings (we say, flesh and blood), young people increasingly experience sexual arousal as they are growing up.  This is partly because of mechanical operations of their body (e.g., activity by glands; muscular growth; changes in height and weight).  As we learn and grow, we all experience sexual appetite the same way we repeatedly have hunger and thirst.  Using logic, reason, and thought, does not make hunger and thirst go away.  Humans must discipline both their body and mind to respond to appetite in ways that are healthy.  We avoid eating, or drinking any and every thing around us, because they may be poisonous or things to bring about sickness and death.  Similarly, we must limit ourselves regarding sex, and because we will be held accountable for our communication, exchanges and interactions within intimate relationships.

Sexual contact occurs on multiple levels:  the physical the  emotional, the psychological, as well as the spiritual.  Thus, sex is held to be dangerous for those who are young and unprepared.  There are always unexpected outcomes of a sex act.  This makes it that sex should be understood as unpredictable and unreliable.  Even adults who maintain the same pattern of attitudes and behavior for many years can become confused and damaged through adultery, casual sex, and extra-marital sexual relations.  Sexual intercourse may be unexplainably painful; there may be disease; there may be unwanted pregnancies; and there may be dissatisfaction with oneself and ones partner.

For those seeking to become spiritually adult, and present themselves to GOD in purity, warnings must be shared against fornication.  Just as girls and guys who think that oral sex will not do as much harm as full intercourse are mistaken, young people are mistaken who think fornication means sex before marriage, or too much sex, with too many partners (promiscuity).  With every sexual contact (be it as simple as holding hands or a kiss on the cheek—oral sex) there is a joining of spirit content for the two sexual partners.  In marriage, the two “become one flesh,” and GOD is the other.  Even so, because her spirit now is within him, and his within her, they must respond to a second spirit inside themselves, and make multiple adjustments to have contentment and inner peace.  Where the male has had sex with 10 girlfriends before marriage, his wife will be joined to at least 11 spirits.  Where his wife had relations with 8 guys, she brings 9 spirits to the marriage.  Do the math:  where the 10 girlfriends knew 8 guys each (80), and the 8 boyfriends 11 girls each (88), the total of spirits begins to number over 200 because of additional contacts among the 8 and the 11.  In some ways, both partners may be strengthened, and made to feel more capable as adults.  However, the battle is for the mind.  Conflict among the spirits of unseen partners can result in the married couple experiencing fear, despair, depression, divorce, and uncertainty that suddenly seems to come from out of nowhere.  The inborn spirit may be weakened by the unseen influences and unclean spirits.  The opposition it must face for control over combinations of spirits (say 50 to 1 or 75 to 1) could become overwhelming.

The serious bonds, connections, and habits established through our animal nature and sexuality can not be immediately broken or removed using our finite human tools  (e.g., isolating ourselves; moping; weeping; moving to a new city; trying to make new friends; exercising self-will).  Christian believers turn to GOD for rebirth and new life that is possible through Jesus Christ.  Once born again, believers must “grow up again” to become disciplined and mature as spiritual persons joined to divinity.

Mustafa, there is far more to be learned, properly understood, and correctly put into action.  Make every positive effort you can.  Through our submission to GOD, men and women should expect to acquire sacred knowledge, and undergo continued change and growth.  Even so, I trust this fragment will be useful.  Be it unto you according to the power in your spirit that connects you to GOD, your faith.

THE BLACK PHOENIX
Washington, DC

New Disclaimer

Today, teaching and godly wisdom on marriage are shared.  Many young adults are offended by the priceless lessons on defilement, fornication, and life companionship.  The young count it as maturity to frown upon arranged marriage and early or teenage marriage with the same contempt they show sexual abstinence.  Prostitution is regarded as “adult”, natural, and necessary.  Yet, sexual activity is dangerous for those who are immature and inexperienced because the outcome is always unpredictable:  Intercourse is never the same twice (even with the same partner, at the same hour, in the same location); one may become infected with disease; or there may be unwanted pregnancy.  For mature Christian believers, holy matrimony is a joining of spirits that removes some of the threat, for two become one flesh, and GOD is the other.  Just as for Adam, the 2 wives of Abraham, or the 4 wives of Jacob—even the 700 wives and 300 concubines of Solomon—successfully managing the spirits that are engaged during sexual contact become possible only by operations of GOD.  Because sexual activity is always a compound event occurring on multiple levels (emotional, physical, psychological, and spiritual) all at the same time, even activity as simple as holding hands, or a kiss on the cheek (oral sex) may have great energy and enduring power, due to the exchange and interaction of spirit content.  The fruit of sexual sharing in relationships of willing surrender, trust, and unselfishness can be greater certainty, confidence, and self-command.  Nonetheless, unintended bonds begun through casual sex may only be removed by divinity.  For those who have had multiple sexual partners, their own inborn spirit may come under attack by spirits within themselves from persons previously joined to the present sex partner.  For example, a fellow who joins to one woman, internalizes aspects of her character and nature, and must continue to manage two separate spirits within himself until they are blended as one.  Where he has had intercourse with 12 women, he brings more than 13 spirits to his marriage bed.  Every spirit acquired by the 12 through their other sexual behavior also will appear.  Thus, where the 12 women had 10 men each who had 10 women each (do the math…) more than 1,200 spirits are involved, and spiritual confusion is very likely to result within the marriage.  The spirits may be in conflict with one another, form alliances (30 against 90; 50 against 70), may increase the strength of the one fellow’s own spirit, or oppose and crush his inborn spirit.  As with symptoms for disease or drug use, neither benefits nor conflicts from the fusion of spirits will appear—at first; and others will see changes in him (like seeing his chin, his face, or the back of his head) before he himself realizes that serious  problems have developed.  Later, inappropriate behavior, uncharacteristic attitudes or beliefs, and unexplained emotions may be seen such as anxiety, depression, distress, and perplexity.  Early marriage where faithfulness and fidelity are maintained is a primary divine solution for avoiding the many woes that come by fornication.  Consider again the following from Scripture, and the commentary below:  Proverbs 19:  14, King James Version (KJV):  14 House and riches are the inheritance of fathers:  and a prudent wife is from the LORD.   Also, Proverbs 5:  15-20, KJV:  15 Drink waters out of thine own cistern, and running waters out of thine own well.  16 Let thy fountains be dispersed abroad, and rivers of waters in the streets.  17 Let them be only thine own, and not strangers’ with thee.  18 Let thy fountain be blessed:  and rejoice with the wife of thy youth.  19 Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.  20 And why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, and embrace the bosom of a stranger?  1st Corinthians 6:  15-20, KJV:  15 Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot? God forbid.  16 What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh.  17 But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit.  18 Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.  19 What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?  20 For ye are bought with a price:  therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.  1st Peter 3:  7, KJV:  7 Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.  Pandita Njoh Eta, who participates with me in THE BIBLE STUDY GROUP (a Public Group on Facebook presently having 21,918 members), invited discussion by posing the following question at 10:36pm, December 9, 2015:

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Why is scripture particular about the wife of your youth and what do you understand by it.?

 

THE GOLDEN ARROW:  Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour.  For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow:  but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up.  Again, if two lie together, then they have heat:  but how can one be warm alone?  And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.  (Ecclesiastes 4:  9-12, KJV)

 

THE DOUBLE DAGGER:  The Mistakes In Youth? (08/24/2015); Sermons About Good Sex? (08/25/2014); About Good Sermons? (08/26/2014); GOD and Adultery? (06/11/2014); A Hardened Spirit? (06/12/2014); Traditional Marriage? (12/18/2013); GOD Enjoys Judgment? (12/19/2013)

 

Pandita Njoh Eta, because ones spouse is to be a lifelong companion who also serves as an agent of GOD in the divine processes of salvation, it can be important that a pair begin their marriage union while both are still young, and their emotional, psychological, sexual, and spiritual development is still ongoing.  Many young people despise and reject the wisdom that addresses issues of arranged and early marriage.  In most nations, today, children are classed among the poor:  They do not have income from employment; they have no savings; they do not own luxuries (e.g., boats, gems, jewelry, paintings, stocks) and property that may be turned into cash.  Unless the parents provide an inheritance or portion for the young, they will continue as unfit for the financial obligations and responsibilities of marriage until such time as they accomplish their own business, career, or savings goals.  The excellent model wherein the female serves as homemaker not only relieves the male, and adds power to all his efforts to meet the life challenges within the workplace, it permits her full expression of creativity, ingenuity, originality, and resourcefulness.

All young people hunger for affection, affirmation, endorsement, and respect as feeling and thinking persons.  While they want acceptance, many are unwilling to make lasting commitments; discharge unpleasant, yet, necessary duties; or maintain strict self-discipline regarding their own body, mind and spirit.  Many covet adulthood, independence, maturity, and romantic love without understanding that the benefits and strengths of these features are developed gradually by continuing exchange in stable relationship.  The young often have fantasies about being loved, and imagine a future life.  However, they tend to think in terms of their own satisfaction, rather than obedience (i.e., putting aside ones own desires and feelings to carry out the desire of another); sacrifice (i.e., giving over and enduring loss to please another); and unselfish support to another.

There are many other points that should be carefully considered, correctly understood, and spiritually apprehended.  (For example, because many young people are convinced that the way to find a marriage partner is by dating, and having sexual relations with everyone to whom they are attracted, many have become victims of fornication (i.e., the joining of spirits through sexual activity), HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases (STD’s), and unwanted pregnancies.  Marriage does not eliminate sexual appetite, and may only provide healthy experiences for a pair where they are mature enough to exercise perseverance and restraint as well as commitment to vision.)  Even so, I trust this fragment will be useful.  Be it unto you according to your faith.

THE BLACK PHOENIX
Washington, DC


New Disclaimer

Today, focus is upon errors of young people when becoming sexually active, fornication, holy matrimony, and salvation.  Rather than obedience to law, the foundation for right relationship as marriage partners is the same as that for salvation in partnership with divinity:  There must be mutual acceptance, love, and sacrifice (i.e., willingness to give, yield, or suffer).  On the one hand, nothing (particularly happiness) is guaranteed.  On the other hand, one may expect the continuing presence of one who is sharing in the intimate details of life process that are challenge, growth, and coming into perfection.  Where men demand humility in women, they often forget that their own humility must set the standard, and they must lead.  Grace Blessed with Maria Odey who participate with me in THE BIBLE STUDY GROUP (a Public Group on Facebook presently having 19,139 members), invited discussion by sharing a presentation that included the following at about 12:15pm on August 23, 2015:

 

WHAT A HUSBAND NEEDS FROM A WIFE IS NEVER SEX.   By: B.I.C. Abeiku Okai.

Sex is an important element in marriage and until there is sexual intercourse between a husband and a wife, the marriage is not yet spiritually recognised. This shows how important sex is in marriage.

 

THE GOLDEN ARROW:  Drink waters out of thine own cistern, and running waters out of thine own well.  Let thy fountains be dispersed abroad, and rivers of waters in the streets.  Let them be only thine own, and not strangers’ with thee.  Let thy fountain be blessed:  and rejoice with the wife of thy youth.  Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.  And why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, and embrace the bosom of a stranger?  For the ways of man are before the eyes of the LORD, and he pondereth all his goings.  His own iniquities shall take the wicked himself, and he shall be holden with the cords of his sins.  He shall die without instruction; and in the greatness of his folly he shall go astray.  (Proverbs 5:  15-23, KJV)

 

THE DOUBLE DAGGER:  GOD and Adultery? (06/11/2014); A Hardened Spirit? (06/12/2014); The Male, the Female, and GOD (02/09/2014); Destroying the Resurrected Body? (02/10/2014); Traditional Marriage? (12/18/2013); GOD Enjoys Judgment? (12/19/2013); A Life Companion? (11/07/2012); On Asking Why (11/08/2012)

 

Be encouraged!  For marriage to be exalted or lifted from a simple joining of flesh to flesh, the equality in marriage must be understood as established by our shared standing before GOD:  All have sinned and come short of the glory of GOD; all must be in humility before the judgment seat of Christ; and all stand in need of the divine covering provided through Christ.  Marriage partners are to be life companions who help one another meet the good, the bad and the ugly together—including the trials or sufferings that are endured as salvation.  She is always to be seen and treated as the beloved of the Lord, and he is always to be encouraged and respected as a joint-heir with the Savior.

Increasingly, young people are becoming sexually active with the idea that no knowledge or preparation is needed, and that there are no benefits to waiting for marriage.  Sexual appetite exists as part of our makeup from birth, and steadily grows as our bodies and minds are aged.  In the same way we must learn to curb, delay and selectively answer hunger and thirst, we absolutely must master sex within.  Often, in our view as young people, we believe we need no instruction—because it’s normal and “nature”, one may “figure it out,” and intuition can be your guide.  However, it remains that, human sexuality has long been a tool of the Adversary, because sexual joining involves many subtleties (i.e., barely visible differences; hidden shifts in meaning and value).  A sex act, no matter how simple (e.g., holding hands, caressing (we say, hugging, stroking), kissing (a form of oral sex) ), occurs on multiple levels of life experience and is a carnal, emotional, physical, and spiritual act all at the same time.  As a result, there is often confusion, imbalance, and unhappiness.

Fornication is the joining of spirits that occurs through sexual activity.  In marriage, the two become one flesh, while GOD is the other.  To maintain relationship, the collection of spirits must be in harmony with law, love, and righteous purpose.  Where we repeatedly err in modern society is that we join ourselves to unknown and unseen persons through sex with a partner we know.  Where we join to someone as their 7th partner, we connect as 8 different spirits that may be in conflict and disharmony, and that will strive for mastery against our own, inborn spirit.  Where we, ourselves have had 10 partners (do the math…) 19 different spirits will be within that pair of would be lovers.  The inborn spirit of each lover is outnumbered 18 to 1.  On the one hand, a person may experience a peculiar sense of increase and strength, at first; and later may become unexplainably depressed, disillusioned, and weakened.  Again, as a result, there is often confusion, imbalance, and unhappiness. 

There is no such thing as “casual sex,” and there should be no such thing as “casual marriage.”  Thus, men are warned, whores do not love; and women are told, you engage a pimp at your own risk.  There can be no sacred marriage (we say, holy matrimony) that denies Christ a place of respect in the thoughts, feelings, and shared home.  Where a man or a woman has erred in their youth exploiting, or exploring their own sexuality (and that of others), there can be repentance with newness of life through baptism, and rebirth.  Then, a man once known as a male prostitute or player, and a woman once known as a sex-worker and a whore should only be called a believer, a saint, and one who is saved.

There is far more that could be said, and that must be correctly understood and spiritually taken into account.  (For example, only GOD may break the permanent bonds that are intended by divinity to result through sexual joining.  Until released by the ministries of Christ that include exorcism, that rid a person of demons and unclean spirits, the errors in our youth continue to have effect throughout out lives.  This can include intimacy through adultery, pre-marital sex, and group sex (some say, gang-rape).  As the tool of GOD, sexual activity is always to benefit, cleanse, heal, and promote life.)  Even so, I trust this fragment will be useful.  Be it unto you according to your faith.

THE BLACK PHOENIX
Washington, DC