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Today, focus is on teens, and whether or not there are sacred events occurring in a secular world.  A sinner becoming a Christian is a developmental process (i.e., an extended series of events that yield gradual growth and learning), and occurs as a transformation completed by GOD.  Baptism, confirmation, and other events to acknowledge increased accountability, independence, and legitimacy for ones full membership within the church should not be taken as authority and license to pass judgment on and separate from the congregation.  Because of their impatience, presumption, and relying upon academic knowledge, secular reports and modern technology, many children and young adults in the church will become blinded, and robbed of their inheritance won through Jesus Christ.  Deceived, these will “drop out” and quit the church before they have been anointed and supplied with the tools for adult faith, and godly service.  The fighter at “Yahoo! Answers” using the ID “Anonymous” (no profile data provided) posted the following:

 

Why is it that nothing spiritual or religious happens these days?

I mean there are no religious people doing miracles or anything. We don’t hear stories of spirits or anything really. It almost seems like religion is becoming obsolete. This is probably why teens like me are moving away from religion more and more. The advancements in science and technology are very appealing and probably boosting this situation.

 

THE GOLDEN ARROW:  For unto us was the gospel preached, as well as unto them:  but the word preached did not profit them, not being mixed with faith in them that heard it.  (Hebrews 4:  2, King James Version, KJV)

 

THE DOUBLE DAGGER:  What Young People Need? (06/26/2017); Growth Is Through Edification (06/20/2017); On Expecting Quick Results (11/07/2016); Discipline and The Cross (06/16/2016); Waiting For His Appearing (02/09/2016); Growing Up Again? (12/09/2015); Wanting To Know When? (10/18/2015)

 

“Anonymous”, it is not that “nothing is going on,” or that what’s going on is “top secret” so much as that it’s classified as “for___eyes only.”  GOD is a spirit who regularly uses materials and processes that are invisible and unseen to flesh.  Christian believers are given several gifts and tools to “keep up with” the ongoing spiritual changes, sacred events (we say, miracles), and proclamations of divine fulfillment for recorded promises and prophecies.  Every sinner who turns to GOD through Jesus Christ is to become endowed with spirit content from the makeup of divinity through baptism and rebirth.  Included are faith, forbearance, longsuffering, lovingkindness, wisdom, and wrath against sin.  Selected believers will serve having a “double portion” (so to speak) of such spiritual gifts as discernment, faith, insight, and meekness that are crucial to edifying the full church.

In the same way, one must turn their head to direct their eyes when using the gift of sight, one must concentrate their focus on the things from GOD when using spiritual gifts, rather than focus on things from the world, the flesh, or the occult.  The active presence and revelation of GOD can not be apprehended without using the primary tools for acquiring sacred knowledge and performing sacred practices (we say, observing sacraments):  there must be focus, discernment and meekness.  Discernment is the ability to use ones own spirit content from the makeup of GOD as a standard to recognize and respond to the spirit substance residing within events, other persons, the holy writings, etc.  Meekness (often called, humility) is the willingness to be led by and express divine guidance and instruction as well as to undergo multiple permanent changes carried out by the Holy Spirit. 

Many of the divine works necessary for sacred operations (such as atonement, resurrection, salvation and sanctification) have already been completed.  There is still “unfinished business” such as the conclusion of judgment using the second death, and the allotment of homes upon the new earth as well as within the New Jerusalem.  Even so, the divine processes for believers now center in displaying and maintaining revealed truth.  Foremost in Christian lives  should be elements indicating maturity and sobriety (e.g., balance, consistency, faith, respect, reverence, stability, trust).  Believers have been told “what to expect next” (we say, hope for) by a sovereign whose nature, will and word are immutable, incorruptible, and unchanging.  There are not likely to be any “surprises”.  Consider again the following:

(1.)  Psalms 25:  8-10, King James Version (KJV):  8 Good and upright is the LORD:  therefore will he teach sinners in the way.  9 The meek will he guide in judgment:  and the meek will he teach his way.  10 All the paths of the LORD are mercy and truth unto such as keep his covenant and his testimonies.

(2.)  Psalms 25:  12-14, KJV:  12 What man is he that feareth the LORD? him shall he teach in the way that he shall choose.  13 His soul shall dwell at ease; and his seed shall inherit the earth.  14 The secret of the LORD is with them that fear him; and he will shew them his covenant.

(3.)  1st Corinthians 2:  12-14, KJV:  12 Now we have received, not the spirit of the world, but the spirit which is of God; that we might know the things that are freely given to us of God.  13 Which things also we speak, not in the words which man’s wisdom teacheth, but which the Holy Ghost teacheth; comparing spiritual things with spiritual.  14 But the natural man receiveth not the things of the Spirit of God:  for they are foolishness unto him:  neither can he know them, because they are spiritually discerned.

There is far more to be said, correctly examined, and spiritually apprehended.  (For example, (4.)  1st Thessalonians 4:  15-18, KJV:  15 For this we say unto you by the word of the Lord, that we which are alive and remain unto the coming of the Lord shall not prevent them which are asleep.  16 For the Lord himself shall descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of the archangel, and with the trump of God:  and the dead in Christ shall rise first:  17 Then we which are alive and remain shall be caught up together with them in the clouds, to meet the Lord in the air: and so shall we ever be with the Lord.  18 Wherefore comfort one another with these words.)  Even so, I trust this fragment will be useful.  Be it unto you according to your faith.

THE BLACK PHOENIX
Washington, DC

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Today, reply is given to a teenager struggling with issues of Christian belief, parental approval, racism, and sexual relationships.  Being related by blood is called “kinship”, being related through love, respect and trust are called “family”.  Young people often are impractical, express exaggerated pride, and insist they can rely upon the certainty, protection and security provided by genuine feelings of love.  Even so, the combination of desire and imagination can produce an uncontrollable fantasy of love.  Weeds of deceit, fornication, and “playing the whore” can infest the places intended for the plantings of marriage.  Considered in the light from Scripture, both the law of ones father (and its alternative, the law of the husband) come into view along with the provisions for young women becoming released from their promises to GOD.  Our youth often fail to correctly acknowledge the fact that, while they are under the authority and protection of their parents, the law requires that what they account as their own private affairs must be approved, monitored, and supervised by their adult caretakers.  In innocence and ignorance, the offspring willingly make promises to surrender the life and property of their parents for payment of the debts and obligations of their children.  Thus, it is legitimate that parents oversee marriage, courtship, and dating because unseen legal obligations may be cemented that include liability through misunderstood and unintended verbal contracts and promises, incurring unexpected and unwanted debts as well as having to seek relief for a fair division or return of shared personal property.  The fighter at “Yahoo! Answers (New Zealand)” using the ID “Joe” (Level 1 with 95 points, a member since February 07, 2017) posted the following:

 

Kicked out and disowned for having a black/mixed boyfriend? Help..?

I’m 18, and as I grow older I have only been attracted to colored men. I have tried dating my own race (white) but its just hard and annoying. In the past, my ex was black and my mom kicked me out until I broke up with him and came back. She also took the car she gave me (i paid 300 dollars on it!) And gave it to my brother. I stayed at my current boyfriends house and got depressed and lost my job. I look back and shouls have kept the job but i was younger and upset by my mom. But today, I am talking to a boy i really really like, he’s mixed. My mom claims to be “strict Christian” and said mixing races is bad. Yet she sleels with men she isn’t married to and judges people, she thinks kicking me out is a lesson and only because i dont follow her rules i cant live in her house. Though i am good at school, working, and i clean. I don’t do anything bad but date other races. She verbally abuses me daily and reminds me everything i never do. I just want to have a normal relationship.. go to prom and my mom take pictures, i wish she would be happy for me. And also, my redneck dad said if i had a mixed baby he would disown me.. yet he loves my sister and her mixed baby.. its stressful and i dont know if i can move out yet.. i have to wait for my new job so i have no money. Help please..

 

THE GOLDEN ARROW:  If a woman also vow a vow unto the LORD, and bind herself by a bond, being in her father’s house in her youth;  And her father hear her vow, and her bond wherewith she hath bound her soul, and her father shall hold his peace at her; then all her vows shall stand, and every bond wherewith she hath bound her soul shall stand.  But if her father disallow her in the day that he heareth; not any of her vows, or of her bonds wherewith she hath bound her soul, shall stand:  and the LORD shall forgive her, because her father disallowed her.  And if she had at all an husband, when she vowed, or uttered ought out of her lips, wherewith she bound her soul;  And her husband heard it, and held his peace at her in the day that he heard it:  then her vows shall stand, and her bonds wherewith she bound her soul shall stand.  But if her husband disallowed her on the day that he heard it; then he shall make her vow which she vowed, and that which she uttered with her lips, wherewith she bound her soul, of none effect:  and the LORD shall forgive her.  But every vow of a widow, and of her that is divorced, wherewith they have bound their souls, shall stand against her.  And if she vowed in her husband’s house, or bound her soul by a bond with an oath;  And her husband heard it, and held his peace at her, and disallowed her not:  then all her vows shall stand, and every bond wherewith she bound her soul shall stand.  But if her husband hath utterly made them void on the day he heard them; then whatsoever proceeded out of her lips concerning her vows, or concerning the bond of her soul, shall not stand:  her husband hath made them void; and the LORD shall forgive her.  Every vow, and every binding oath to afflict the soul, her husband may establish it, or her husband may make it void.  (Numbers 30:  3-13, King James Version, KJV)

 

THE DOUBLE DAGGER:  Can Christians Be Racists? (07/25/2016); Flesh Against the Spirit? (06/19/2016); Discipline and The Cross (06/16/2016); On Controlling Lust (01/05/2016); Growing Up Again? (12/09/2015); Understanding Spiritual Growth? (03/13/2015); Not Yet Delivered From Racism? (12/21/2014); Racism Is Not From GOD (12/22/2014)

 

“Joe”, for there to be a “happy ending” at your father’s house there are many important points for you to consider.  You seem to be confusing issues of being respected as an adult, Christian belief, race, and sexual freedom.  Mature Christian believers regard themselves as “married” and bound to GOD through Jesus Christ.  Nowadays, as they are developing to be full persons, young females encounter many intense emotional and psychological challenges; and they are likely to be exploited, overwhelmed, and “kicked to the curb.”  Like anyone else, you want to be free and pursue your own feelings and thoughts, however, you are not yet an independent or mature adult.  (Maturity is marked by balance, completeness, consistency, and stability.)

All lasting relationships and adult notions of love—be they with family, friends, or romantic interests—require that one be accountable, committed, and also willing to show love through restraint, sacrifice (i.e., doing whatever is demanded; paying every cost, even, laying down ones life), and self-denial.  Where you are prepared to talk about what you want from others, you also must be prepared to say what you are willing to give in return.  Parents are not unreasonable to deny “sexual relationships” to their daughters while they are living at home.  It is not that they are ignorant of how powerful and demanding sexual appetite in young people can be.  Nor is it that they can read people’s minds, or foretell the future so much as it is a matter of recognizing familiar patterns.  Once you see ABCDEFG, it is reasonable to think XYZ is on the way, and not 8-9-10-11.

In the same way it sends a message about how you value your parents for you to say, I can not stop smoking for two or three years while I am in my father’s house, I can not stop drinking alcohol, or attending foot ball games until after I am married, to say, I can not stop dating tells them there is a serious problem that goes beyond their having authority, duty, and willingness to trust you as their offspring.  It sends a message regarding what you think of yourself.

There is far more to be said, correctly applied, and spiritually apprehended.  (For example, the benefits of going to school and taking on small jobs include gaining self-confidence and acquiring self-discipline.  Having “a future” with the big life-accomplishments of career, marriage, and family are not possible for those who do not first learn to patiently wait, and while waiting direct their energy into things that will make them stronger and more well prepared for the things they truly want that remain ahead.  Where you and your male companions insist you are adult enough to maintain sexual relationships, you should only do so on your own terms, and in your own shared place.)  Even so, I trust this fragment will be useful.  Be it unto you according to your faith.

THE BLACK PHOENIX
Washington, DC

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Today, focus is upon Christian believers as voters, prayer, and response to a teen whose parents have agreed will decide their votes in the upcoming presidential election.  Politics and the electoral process are finite tools to determine the distribution of resources within the World system, and are intended to maintain balance, respect, survival, and unity.  Because there is emphasis upon things carnal, material and social, for many suffrage is practiced as competition, conflict, excess, idolatry, lust for power, and exaggerated pride.  Where citizens also continually acknowledge possibilities for the active presence of divinity within their own lives and that of their community, participation and self-government can crystallize and express a sense of freedom, maturity, shared goals, and fruitful standards.  One of the many fighters at “Yahoo! Answers (Philippines)” who uses the ID “Anonymous” (profile information not supplied) posted the following:

 

November 8 is my birthday and my parents say that one of my “presents” is my option to chose which candidate for them to vote for?

One of my birthday presents is my choice for them to vote for Hillary or Trump. I don’t know much about them latey, but I do know that they’re both stupid retreads and unworthy of presidency. Parents told me ahead of time so I can make a choice on whom they can vote for. Both H and T fans, give my a reason why I should support Republican or Democrat. I’m 13 years old, so I’m not mature enough to know modern politics

 

THE GOLDEN ARROW:  I exhort therefore, that, first of all, supplications, prayers, intercessions, and giving of thanks, be made for all men;  For kings, and for all that are in authority; that we may lead a quiet and peaceable life in all godliness and honesty.  For this is good and acceptable in the sight of God our Saviour;  Who will have all men to be saved, and to come unto the knowledge of the truth.  For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus;  Who gave himself a ransom for all, to be testified in due time.  (1st Timothy 2:  1-6, King James Version, KJV)

 

THE DOUBLE DAGGER:  Cultural, Political, Spiritual Growth? (07/10/2016); A Learned Council of Elders? (05/10/2016); American Culture and Law? (07/13/2015); Jesus As America’s President? (05/20/2015); The American Covenant? (03/03/2015); Faith not Politics? (12/02/2014); Ye Are Not In The Flesh (12/03/2014)

 

“Anonymous”, maturity is not a matter of chronological age (how old you are) so much as attitude, confidence, focus, and preparation.  There have been many times in history when a child or young adult became head of their nation as king supported by guardians and chief ministers.  For mature Americans who are Christian believers, franchise and the freedom to vote in elections are a lawful duty and legal obligation that one earns by commitment, hard work, performing honorably and with integrity, personal investment, and sacrifice that becomes visible as their ongoing participation in the collective creation of a fruitful, stable commonwealth, (we say, community, municipality, nation, state, township).  Many mistakenly embrace the idea of having a “right” to vote as an entitlement granted by GOD along with existence, or that automatically comes by birth, by membership, or as ones family inheritance and legacy.  Franchise demands “due diligence,” the careful  work of becoming informed and evaluating secular information from multiple sources (e.g., endorsements, public debates, media reports, polls and survey data, authoritative recommendations).  Concerning politics that decide the operations and quality of government, GOD should not be approached for “victory” on the basis of divine favor (we say, unearned) and not in accordance with the demands of sacred standards the way some call for the success of their favorite sports teams.  Contrary to the many demonstrations of civil disobedience, Christians are commanded to respect those in authority and obey the common law.  In our Nation today, many still cast their votes (even when serving on a jury) only after prayer, and seeking counsel and input from GOD.  Truly born-again believers do not respond to life challenges relying only upon desires, sentiment and superstition.  There should be accountability and the application of divine standards as well as sober responses to outcomes and consequences.  Thus believers may petition GOD for balance, clarity of mind, courage, and discernment to characterize their own decision-making as surely as they may request, Thy will be done.  Consider again how some of this is stated using language from the Bible:

(1.)  Romans 13:  1-5, King James Version (KJV):  1 Let every soul be subject unto the higher powers. For there is no power but of God:  the powers that be are ordained of God.  2 Whosoever therefore resisteth the power, resisteth the ordinance of God:  and they that resist shall receive to themselves damnation.  3 For rulers are not a terror to good works, but to the evil. Wilt thou then not be afraid of the power? do that which is good, and thou shalt have praise of the same:  4 For he is the minister of God to thee for good. But if thou do that which is evil, be afraid; for he beareth not the sword in vain:  for he is the minister of God, a revenger to execute wrath upon him that doeth evil.  5 Wherefore ye must needs be subject, not only for wrath, but also for conscience sake.

(2.)  Romans 13:  7-10, KJV:  7 Render therefore to all their dues:  tribute to whom tribute is due; custom to whom custom; fear to whom fear; honour to whom honour.  8 Owe no man any thing, but to love one another:  for he that loveth another hath fulfilled the law.  9 For this, Thou shalt not commit adultery, Thou shalt not kill, Thou shalt not steal, Thou shalt not bear false witness, Thou shalt not covet; and if there be any other commandment, it is briefly comprehended in this saying, namely, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.  10 Love worketh no ill to his neighbour:  therefore love is the fulfilling of the law.

(3.)  Jeremiah 29:  11-13, KJV:  11 For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.  12 Then shall ye call upon me, and ye shall go and pray unto me, and I will hearken unto you.  13 And ye shall seek me, and find me, when ye shall search for me with all your heart.

There is far more to be said, carefully examined, and spiritually apprehended.  (For example, (4.)  James 1:  5-8, KJV:  5 If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him.  6 But let him ask in faith, nothing wavering. For he that wavereth is like a wave of the sea driven with the wind and tossed.  7 For let not that man think that he shall receive any thing of the Lord.  8 A double minded man is unstable in all his ways.)  Even so, I trust this fragment will be useful.  Be it unto you according to your faith.

THE BLACK PHOENIX
Washington, DC

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Today, appetite, independence, obedience, self-control, and sexuality before marriage are in view.  Adult privilege is obtained on the basis of acquiring adult knowledge, continually carrying out adult responsibilities, and routinely maintaining adult standards.  Those having developed genuine maturity are able to display balance, commitment, completeness, consistency, patience (i.e., ability to wait quietly, without complaining), sobriety, and stability.  A fighter at “Yahoo! Answers” using the ID “Paige” (Level 1 with 99 points, a member since June 19, 2016) posted the following:

 

My parents are christians and think I am a pretty good kid. They do not want me too have se before marriage but I rlly want to? Any help??/?

Update: *sex

 

THE GOLDEN ARROW:  Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness,  Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies,  Envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like:  of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.  But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith,  Meekness, temperance:  against such there is no law.  And they that are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts.  If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit.  (Galatians 5:  19-25, KJV)

 

THE DOUBLE DAGGER:  Discipline and The Cross (06/16/2016); The Cross Condemns Fornication (05/20/2016); Answered by The Cross? (03/14/2016); On Controlling Lust (01/05/2016); The Wife of Your Youth? (12/22/2015); Growing Up Again? (12/09/2015); Punishment To Show Love? (11/29/2015)

 

Galatians 5: 17, King James Version (KJV):  17 For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh:  and these are contrary the one to the other:  so that ye cannot do the things that ye would.

Ephesians 6: 12, KJV:  12 For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.

“Paige”, in obedience to Jesus Christ I am sharing with you a message from the cross.  Your question made a statement (I want to disobey and ignore my parents, because I want to have sex, I don’t want to be a Christian, and all I need is courage that will come from the strangers who will agree with me.).  The warnings from Scripture are to be joined to those from “common sense.”  Sexual desire is an animal and carnal appetite like hunger and thirst.  It can not be satisfied merely by using imagination, logic, make believe, reason, or thought.  Thus, self-acceptance and inner peace through sexuality are very difficult to achieve.  Even so, like hunger and thirst, lust and sexual appetite must be disciplined and trained by the human, and spirit parts of who we are. 

When your body begins to behave like that of an adult, then you want your mind and your spirit to also behave like that of an adult—the duties, problems, and responsibility of an adult are soon to follow.  Giving oneself in sexual union should be in accordance with full authority over ones own life expressed in emotional and financial independence.  Then, you (and your partners) acknowledge accountability for your own actions and choices without burdening others by the consequences of your errors and mistakes.  You make a home for yourself, provide food, hygiene, and health care for your self.  You understand that sexual joining may be accomplished by behavior as simple as holding hands, or a kiss on the cheek.  Sexual behavior always occurs on multiple levels all at the same time that include emotional, material, psychological, and spiritual exchange.

There is far more that should be carefully said, thoughtfully examined, and spiritually understood.  For example, while we may find forgiveness at the cross, and children can find forgiveness with their parents after betraying them concerning their own desires for sexual pleasure, it remains that, knowing the message they were given was shared with them in love, the child will always be without excuse, or justification.)  Even so, I am sure this fragment will be useful.  Be it unto you according to your faith.

THE BLACK PHOENIX
Washington, DC

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Discipline, duty, spirit growth, and parenting are topics, today.  Christian parents are wise to correctly teach their children the meaning of accountability, accepting discipline, interdependence, and mutual obligation.  Often, the living must rely upon discipline and “staying the course” for survival during crises, emergencies, and extreme conditions, rather than upon courage, emotion, opinions, and sentiment.  It is discipline that allows us to embrace new experiences, and to face the future as if we have no fear or uncertainty.  Only by discipline do we continue to function effectively in spite of disappointments, errors, personal losses, the unexpected, and tragedies.  One of the fighters at “Yahoo! Answers” using the ID “Anonymous” (no profile information shared) posted the following:

 

My parents grounded me for refusing to read scriptures with them and say a prayer with them at bedtime. Isn’t that ridiculous?

My parents said that I’m being rebellious and letting Satan into my life. That’s not it…I just wasn’t in the mood to read and pray. I had a bad day and wanted to go to sleep. After my parents told me that I was going to be grounded for refusing I told them that I would do what they wanted, but it was already too late. I read scriptures and prayed with them, but I still got grounded. I don’t think it’s fair for me to be in trouble over something like this.

Update: I’m 13 and its summer break. I don’t want to be grounded. I’m going to try to do what my parents want so that they will end it.

Update 2: Oleg: I don’t care if you believe me or not.

Update 3: Thanks for the answers everyone. I need to get off the computer now. My parents will be mad if they see that I’m on the computer and not in bed. I’m not supposed to be on the computer right now. 😦

Update 4: A few of these answers are a little ridiculous…

 

THE GOLDEN ARROW:  He that overcometh shall inherit all things; and I will be his God, and he shall be my son.  But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone:  which is the second death.  (Revelation 21:  7-8, KJV) 

 

THE DOUBLE DAGGER:  Why Pray For Victims? (06/14/2016); Called Slaves by GOD? (02/10/2016); Divine Discipline? (12/24/2015); Growing Up Again? (12/09/2015); Punishment To Show Love? (11/29/2015); Called To Be Servants? (11/25/2015); Understanding Spiritual Growth? (03/13/2015); The Benefit of Law? (11/15/2013); Are Holidays Bad? (11/16/2013)

 

“Anonymous”, mature Christian believers understand that the death of Jesus Christ upon the cross has also been a divine demonstration of the discipline mankind must achieve to fulfill the possibilities of eternal life.  Most minor children and many parents do not properly understand that “discipline” means practice, preparation, self-control, and training—rather than “punishment”, “reprimand” or “scolding”.  Obedience is demonstrated through discipline; and is one of the highest expressions of love seen in the wedding vows because, “to obey” is to put asides ones own desires and to perform the will of another.  More than by commitment, or on the basis of what one likes and prefers, success in carrying out adult responsibilities that include sexual purity and restraint, marriage, family life, military service, and various vocations results from having discipline, endurance, and the will to persevere.  It is not unreasonable that parents expect their children to be capable of demanding from themselves efforts and responses that contribute to the well-being of their shared home, its honor, quality, and value.  However, parents often do so expressing their own feelings, rather than correctly acknowledging the faithfulness and maturity and of their child.  Consider again how some of this is stated in language from the Scriptures:

(1.)   Proverbs 22:  4-6, King James Version (KJV):  4 By humility and the fear of the LORD are riches, and honour, and life.  5 Thorns and snares are in the way of the froward:  he that doth keep his soul shall be far from them.  6 Train up a child in the way he should go:  and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

(2.)  Proverbs 9:  6-10, KJV:  6 Forsake the foolish, and live; and go in the way of understanding.  7 He that reproveth a scorner getteth to himself shame:  and he that rebuketh a wicked man getteth himself a blot.  8 Reprove not a scorner, lest he hate thee:  rebuke a wise man, and he will love thee.  9 Give instruction to a wise man, and he will be yet wiser:  teach a just man, and he will increase in learning.  10 The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom:  and the knowledge of the holy is understanding.

(3.)  Hebrews 5:  5-10, KJV:  5 So also Christ glorified not himself to be made an high priest; but he that said unto him, Thou art my Son, to day have I begotten thee.  6 As he saith also in another place, Thou art a priest for ever after the order of Melchisedec.  7 Who in the days of his flesh, when he had offered up prayers and supplications with strong crying and tears unto him that was able to save him from death, and was heard in that he feared;  8 Though he were a Son, yet learned he obedience by the things which he suffered;  9 And being made perfect, he became the author of eternal salvation unto all them that obey him;  10 Called of God an high priest after the order of Melchisedec.

There is far more that should be carefully said, thoughtfully examined, and spiritually understood.  (For example, (4.)  Hebrews 12:  3-8, KJV:  3 For consider him that endured such contradiction of sinners against himself, lest ye be wearied and faint in your minds.  4 Ye have not yet resisted unto blood, striving against sin.  5 And ye have forgotten the exhortation which speaketh unto you as unto children, My son, despise not thou the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou art rebuked of him:  6 For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth.  7 If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not?  8 But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons.)  Even so, I am sure this fragment will be useful.  Be it unto you according to your faith.

THE BLACK PHOENIX
Washington, DC

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A response to a teenager’s question on human sexuality is featured, today.  While the council shared is from a Christian to an Islamic believer, the substance provided pertains to life for all.  More often than not, the confusion in our lives is not coming from our Creator; yet, there is no “easy way out.”  Given their duty as life companions entrusted with each other’s secrets, parents ought not expose one another to the censure of their children; and so they may not always speak freely to their own children regarding the common challenges, errors, and shortcomings from their younger days.  Just as we are careful to select food and drink to nourish our bodies, we must be careful selecting ideas and relationships to nourish our feelings and thoughts.  Many Christian believers have paid dearly for life lessons, and to arrive at the same points of truth shared among Muslims by first attending “the school of hard knocks.”  Because they continued to be immature, were stubborn, and lacked correct knowledge, they repeated basic mistakes in their attitudes and their sexual behavior for many years before being recovered from error through the operations of GOD.  Where a mother uses drugs during pregnancy, her child may be born addicted.  Similarly, where either of the parents practice fornication, their child may be born spiritually defiled and unclean.  While we are young we must be encouraged to understand that—just as ability to recite passages from the holy writings come only through practice that may seem dull, monotonous, and tedious—self-discipline, self-mastery, and self-control also come only through deliberate and painstaking practice.  Consider the following Bible verses, and the discussion below: 

Proverbs 16:  32, King James Version (KJV):  32 He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city. 

Proverbs 25:  28, KJV:  28 He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls. 

Mark 10:  6-8, KJV:  6 But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female.  7 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife;  8 And they twain shall be one flesh:  so then they are no more twain, but one flesh.

Micah 6:  8, KJV:  8 He hath shewed thee, O man, what is good; and what doth the LORD require of thee, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God?

The young writer at “Yahoo! Answers” posted the following:

 

Ramadan: How do I control my lust?

salam, I am a 16 year old brother…I find myself unable to lower my gaze….I stare at women, girls, and even boys in public with lust, masturbate all the time, even fantasizing about boys, and rape….I sometimes watch porn, and I just want to know, how do I control my lust? salam, Mustafa

 

THE GOLDEN ARROW:  And this have ye done again, covering the altar of the LORD with tears, with weeping, and with crying out, insomuch that he regardeth not the offering any more, or receiveth it with good will at your hand.  Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the LORD hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously:  yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant.  And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth.  (Malachi 2:  13-15, KJV)

 

THE DOUBLE DAGGER:  The Wife of Your Youth? (12/22/2015); All Sin Is Willful? (10/20/2015); The Mistakes In Youth? (08/24/2015); Sermons About Good Sex? (08/25/2014); About Good Sermons? (08/26/2014); Pornography from the Bible (11/26/2012); More Than Salvation (11/27/2012)

 

“Mustafa”, as salam alekum.  When it comes to sex, no one has all the final answers; and we all must depend on some specific guiding principles.  The council a Christian father must give his son regarding a boy developing into manhood includes a number of serious warnings that help to bring balance into his thinking on, and acting out sexual desires.  As carnal beings (we say, flesh and blood), young people increasingly experience sexual arousal as they are growing up.  This is partly because of mechanical operations of their body (e.g., activity by glands; muscular growth; changes in height and weight).  As we learn and grow, we all experience sexual appetite the same way we repeatedly have hunger and thirst.  Using logic, reason, and thought, does not make hunger and thirst go away.  Humans must discipline both their body and mind to respond to appetite in ways that are healthy.  We avoid eating, or drinking any and every thing around us, because they may be poisonous or things to bring about sickness and death.  Similarly, we must limit ourselves regarding sex, and because we will be held accountable for our communication, exchanges and interactions within intimate relationships.

Sexual contact occurs on multiple levels:  the physical the  emotional, the psychological, as well as the spiritual.  Thus, sex is held to be dangerous for those who are young and unprepared.  There are always unexpected outcomes of a sex act.  This makes it that sex should be understood as unpredictable and unreliable.  Even adults who maintain the same pattern of attitudes and behavior for many years can become confused and damaged through adultery, casual sex, and extra-marital sexual relations.  Sexual intercourse may be unexplainably painful; there may be disease; there may be unwanted pregnancies; and there may be dissatisfaction with oneself and ones partner.

For those seeking to become spiritually adult, and present themselves to GOD in purity, warnings must be shared against fornication.  Just as girls and guys who think that oral sex will not do as much harm as full intercourse are mistaken, young people are mistaken who think fornication means sex before marriage, or too much sex, with too many partners (promiscuity).  With every sexual contact (be it as simple as holding hands or a kiss on the cheek—oral sex) there is a joining of spirit content for the two sexual partners.  In marriage, the two “become one flesh,” and GOD is the other.  Even so, because her spirit now is within him, and his within her, they must respond to a second spirit inside themselves, and make multiple adjustments to have contentment and inner peace.  Where the male has had sex with 10 girlfriends before marriage, his wife will be joined to at least 11 spirits.  Where his wife had relations with 8 guys, she brings 9 spirits to the marriage.  Do the math:  where the 10 girlfriends knew 8 guys each (80), and the 8 boyfriends 11 girls each (88), the total of spirits begins to number over 200 because of additional contacts among the 8 and the 11.  In some ways, both partners may be strengthened, and made to feel more capable as adults.  However, the battle is for the mind.  Conflict among the spirits of unseen partners can result in the married couple experiencing fear, despair, depression, divorce, and uncertainty that suddenly seems to come from out of nowhere.  The inborn spirit may be weakened by the unseen influences and unclean spirits.  The opposition it must face for control over combinations of spirits (say 50 to 1 or 75 to 1) could become overwhelming.

The serious bonds, connections, and habits established through our animal nature and sexuality can not be immediately broken or removed using our finite human tools  (e.g., isolating ourselves; moping; weeping; moving to a new city; trying to make new friends; exercising self-will).  Christian believers turn to GOD for rebirth and new life that is possible through Jesus Christ.  Once born again, believers must “grow up again” to become disciplined and mature as spiritual persons joined to divinity.

Mustafa, there is far more to be learned, properly understood, and correctly put into action.  Make every positive effort you can.  Through our submission to GOD, men and women should expect to acquire sacred knowledge, and undergo continued change and growth.  Even so, I trust this fragment will be useful.  Be it unto you according to the power in your spirit that connects you to GOD, your faith.

THE BLACK PHOENIX
Washington, DC

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Today, reply is made to a teen requesting guidance for further growth as a Christian.  Like others, followers of the Lord do not always get to have their own way.  There is no formula, “magic words,” or single catchword for developing believers; and, for many, insight and understanding only will come as they endure regular life challenges and hardships.  The life of a Christian does not center in enjoying oneself and pursuing various pleasures.  Every believer is called (we may say, recruited) to participate in the work of spreading the Gospel, and preparing a harvest for the Lord.  Consider again the following from the Bible and the recommendation that appears below:  Hebrews 5:  7-10, King James Version (KJV):  7 Who in the days of his flesh, when he had offered up prayers and supplications with strong crying and tears unto him that was able to save him from death, and was heard in that he feared;  8 Though he were a Son, yet learned he obedience by the things which he suffered;  9 And being made perfect, he became the author of eternal salvation unto all them that obey him;  10 Called of God an high priest after the order of Melchisedec.  Also, 1st John 2:  15-17, KJV:  15 Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him.  16 For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world.  17 And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof:  but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever.  1st John 4:  1-3, KJV:  1 Beloved, believe not every spirit, but try the spirits whether they are of God:  because many false prophets are gone out into the world.  2 Hereby know ye the Spirit of God:  Every spirit that confesseth that Jesus Christ is come in the flesh is of God:  3 And every spirit that confesseth not that Jesus Christ is come in the flesh is not of God:  and this is that spirit of antichrist, whereof ye have heard that it should come; and even now already is it in the world.  The writer at “Yahoo! Answers” using the ID “XX” (Level 1 with 90 points, a member since December 08, 2015) posted the following:

 

How to be more Christlike ( how to be a better man)?

Hello I’m 15 and experienced a calling from the lord yesterday, I found him, I’m sure of it. I can’t explain it but I was in tears, of joy. I have been raised as a Christian but up until yesterday I haven’t truly found him. Im not sure I worded that properly but that’s the only way I can explain in words. I want to follow the teachings of god and desire to become the best man I can. My question now is how can I become a better mam, more Christ like. I know its not that simple but what can I do in my everyday life to become a better person? I also want other advice for a young man that I should hear

 

THE GOLDEN ARROW:  Ye have heard that it hath been said, Thou shalt love thy neighbour, and hate thine enemy.  But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;  That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven:  for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust.  For if ye love them which love you, what reward have ye? do not even the publicans the same?  And if ye salute your brethren only, what do ye more than others? do not even the publicans so?  Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect.  (Matthew 5:  43-48, KJV)

 

THE DOUBLE DAGGER:  Ongoing and Unfinished? (11/22/2015); Temptations, Tests and Trials? (05/12/2015); How To Renew The Mind (11/22/2013); Prayer not Enough? (07/12/2013); A Tree Falls To The South (07/13/2013)

 

XX”, every Christian believer must undergo a process of learning and growth to become “ripe”.  Following water baptism (death of ones inborn spirit, rebirth from divine DNA, so to speak), the disciples of Jesus gradually experience changes within their character and substance.  All are being prepared and made ready to be taken from the earth at the return of Jesus Christ (called Advent, the harvest, the Rapture, and the Second Coming).  Born again, believers must “grow up again” and become mature facing the same “growing pains” and life challenges as all others alive upon the earth.  To be mature is to be balanced, complete, focused, and stable.  More than this, believers must become perfected.  Because our efforts to accomplish self-improvement are finite, and only continue our focus upon the flesh and the world (e.g., ambition, prestige, status, success), to be made perfect believers submit to operations of the Holy Spirit that are eternal.  Believers must participate in and submit to operations that are completed by divinity.  Included are confession, communion, praise, repentance, and sanctification.  The believer should engage in such actions as fellowship with more experienced believers, continuing study of the holy writings, service to GOD, and unselfish giving.  We acquire and apply sacred knowledge in our routine activity and daily living that then serves as our own inner preferences, principles and standards.  With this in view, reading the entire Bible is a goal for many believers, and the teachings from the Book of Proverbs have been very useful.  Even so, consider the following points out of the Scriptures:

(1.)  2nd Timothy 3:  16-17, King James Version (KJV):  16 All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness:  17 That the man of God may be perfect, throughly furnished unto all good works.

(2.)  Galatians 6:  8-10, KJV:  8 For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting.  9 And let us not be weary in well doing:  for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.  10 As we have therefore opportunity, let us do good unto all men, especially unto them who are of the household of faith.

(3.)  1st Peter 4:  12-14, KJV:  12 Beloved, think it not strange concerning the fiery trial which is to try you, as though some strange thing happened unto you:  13 But rejoice, inasmuch as ye are partakers of Christ’s sufferings; that, when his glory shall be revealed, ye may be glad also with exceeding joy.  14 If ye be reproached for the name of Christ, happy are ye; for the spirit of glory and of God resteth upon you:  on their part he is evil spoken of, but on your part he is glorified.

There are many other verses that should be carefully considered, correctly understood, and made a part of ones spiritual arsenal.  (For example, (4.)  1st Peter 5:  6-11, KJV:  6 Humble yourselves therefore under the mighty hand of God, that he may exalt you in due time:  7 Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.  8 Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour:  9 Whom resist stedfast in the faith, knowing that the same afflictions are accomplished in your brethren that are in the world.  10 But the God of all grace, who hath called us unto his eternal glory by Christ Jesus, after that ye have suffered a while, make you perfect, stablish, strengthen, settle you.  11 To him be glory and dominion for ever and ever. Amen.)  Even so, I trust this fragment will be useful.  Be it unto you according to your faith.

THE BLACK PHOENIX
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